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		<dc:creator>Lorelei</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Introducing Your Child to His Relatives
We teach our children not to talk to strangers, and then, all of a sudden, because of something called &#8220;the Family Reunion&#8221;, that is exactly what we want our kids to do!  The young child is often timid around strangers, even when those strangers are actually relatives that you [...]]]></description>
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<p><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/1095215538_e03a79d4fa.jpg"><img src="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/1095215538_e03a79d4fa-199x300.jpg" alt="1095215538_e03a79d4fa" title="1095215538_e03a79d4fa" width="199" height="300" align="left" /></a>We teach our children not to talk to strangers, and then, all of a sudden, because of something called &#8220;the Family Reunion&#8221;, that is exactly what we want our kids to do!  The young child is often timid around strangers, even when those strangers are actually relatives that you just don&#8217;t get to see very often.  So how can you help your child feel comfortable around his relatives, without forcing him to give hugs and kisses to such strange people?  </p>
<p>There are several steps you can take, to make sure that everyone enjoys the reunion, create some wonderful memories, and forge some new friendships for your child that may last a lifetime. </p>
<p>The first step is to introduce your relatives using a photo album.  Take large, clear pictures of each relative, alone.  Using a magnetic photo album, insert copies of the pictures into the pages, along with large, clear labels of each name.  Magnetic albums are not good for your photographs.  Over time, the colors will fade.  For albums that you want to keep, you&#8217;ll need to look for &#8220;archival quality&#8221; paper, that is acid-free and lignen-free.  But for a toddler&#8217;s picture book, nothing quite holds up like a sturdy magnetic album.  That&#8217;s why you&#8217;ll make duplicate copies of your photos.  One to put in your child&#8217;s magnetic picture book, and another to save.  </p>
<p><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/226565385_c4e9d958bb.jpg"><img src="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/226565385_c4e9d958bb-300x225.jpg" alt="226565385_c4e9d958bb" title="226565385_c4e9d958bb" width="300" height="225" align="right"></a>This magnetic album is your child&#8217;s.  Let him look through the pictures often.  Read the names aloud to him.  Ask him to tell the names back to you.  When that relative calls on the phone, get the album out, and point to the right picture.  Let the relative say &#8220;hi&#8221; to your young child on the phone, and encourage him to say something back.  When you go through the book again, tell him short stories about each relative. Some little thing that may help him put names to faces.  Like, &#8220;this is Great-Grandma Biggers.  She likes to paint, and has a swimming pool at her house.  This is your Great Aunt Liesa, she lives on a farm with lots of cows.&#8221;  The stories can get longer as your child&#8217;s attention increases.  The idea is to make that person seem real, so when your child meets them in person, they won&#8217;t be total strangers.</p>
<p>Bring the album with you to the reunion.  Let your child make a game of finding each relative in his book among the group that has gathered.</p>
<p>Finally, plan some activities in advance.  You can ask every person attending the reunion to come up with one child-activity and one adult-activity.  Getting together and talking may be exciting for the old folks, but the young ones will be bored to tears.  Make sure they have fun, and they will want to come again!</p>
<p><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/3869647241_5f2bddb1b1.jpg"><img src="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/3869647241_5f2bddb1b1-199x300.jpg" alt="3869647241_5f2bddb1b1" title="3869647241_5f2bddb1b1" width="199" height="300" align="left" /></a>At one of our family reunions, one aunt brought a gallon of bubbles solution and a variety of wands and blowers.  There were twelve young children there, who absolutely loved this simple activity.  They took turns blowing bubbles and catching them, chasing the bubbles, and trying to catch them on their tongues.  Another organized activity was a simple scavenger hunt.  Later, someone brought out paper and paint, and yet another got them all in a circle for a game of duck-duck-goose. Nothing was difficult, but without pre-planning, it might have been challenging to come up with materials and games on the spur of the moment.</p>
<p>Don&#8217;t forget to keep your child somewhat on his schedule, even when on vacation.  If he normally takes a two hour nap, and you don&#8217;t have him take a nap at all, you may be setting him up for a major tantrum when he gets over-tired.  Nothing spoils the fun quite like a two-year-old acting like a two-year-old, and a bunch of older relatives giving you unwanted advice on how they never let their kids get away with that kind of behavior.  </p>
<p>Finally, if there are some touchy subjects that you really don&#8217;t want to talk about at the reunion, you might list them in the invitations in advance.  Otherwise, try to think of all the annoying questions that really push your buttons, and think how you might answer them without causing conflict.  Is there one relative that always brings up spanking?  How do you usually respond to them?  Is there a better way to handle that then what you&#8217;ve tried in the past?  </p>
<p>When my children were young, my husband and I decided to homeschool them.  Unfortunately, many of our relatives were public school teachers!  As you can imagine, there might have been a lot of conflict at our get-togethers, but there wasn&#8217;t.  My husband and I informed everyone in advance of our decision, and why.  Then we went ahead and did it.  We&#8217;d already earned the reputation for being a little &#8220;odd&#8221; because we didn&#8217;t let our children watch cartoons.  I felt that most cartoons (except Tom and Jerry) were violent, crude, scary, or perpetuating bratty behavior that we did not allow.  So I had been censoring their television viewing habits for years before the homeschooling issue came up.  At first, I remember hearing some relatives remark that cartoons were harmless, but a couple of years later they noticed how well-behaved and creative and intelligent our children were.  Then when they heard someone else disparage children&#8217;s television programming, I heard those same relatives inform them proudly how we never let our children watch that stuff!</p>
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Family reunions can be a wonderful way to build relationships.  They can be a celebration of life, as we honor our elders and enjoy the newest generation.  I have heard it said that the two most important things you can give your child are roots and wings.  Roots, to know where he came from, and the freedom to fly from the nest when he&#8217;s ready.  So enjoy your roots!  And don&#8217;t forget to take some pictures!</p>
<p><strong>Further Reading:</strong><br />
<a href="http://astore.amazon.com/raisicreatchi-20/detail/0553374982">Family Secrets: The Path to Self-Acceptance and Reunion</a><br />
<a href="http://astore.amazon.com/raisicreatchi-20/detail/0979834554">Great Games: 175 Games and Activities for Families, Groups, and Children</a><br />
<a href="http://astore.amazon.com/raisicreatchi-20/detail/0060583606">The Berenstain Bears Family Reunion</a></p>
<p>Related Articles:<br />
<a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/building-family-through-tradition/">Building Family Through Tradition</a><br />
<a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/traveling-tots/">Traveling with Tots</a><br />
<a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/the-family-meal-thing-of-the-past/">The Family Meal</a></p>
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Cousins:<xmlns:cc="http://creativecommons.org/ns#" about="http://www.flickr.com/photos/philscoville/1095215538/"><a rel="cc:attributionURL" href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/philscoville/">http://www.flickr.com/photos/philscoville/</a> / <a rel="license" href="http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0/">CC BY 2.0</a><br />
Great Grandma with book:<xmlns:cc="http://creativecommons.org/ns#" about="http://www.flickr.com/photos/tomeppy/226565385/"><a rel="cc:attributionURL" href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/tomeppy/">http://www.flickr.com/photos/tomeppy/</a> / <a rel="license" href="http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0/">CC BY 2.0</a><br />
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Kissing Cousins:<xmlns:cc="http://creativecommons.org/ns#" about="http://www.flickr.com/photos/makelessnoise/1702448662/"><a rel="cc:attributionURL" href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/makelessnoise/">http://www.flickr.com/photos/makelessnoise/</a> / <a rel="license" href="http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0/">CC BY 2.0</a></p>



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		<title>Reduce or Eliminate Tantrums</title>
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		<dc:creator>Lorelei</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The Count &#8211; Down Method
Young children get so engrossed in their activity, that they do not want to quit just because you say so.  It doesn&#8217;t matter if they&#8217;re playing in the sandbox, coloring quietly, or throwing toys all around the room.  If they are busy, and you tell them to stop, they [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>The Count &#8211; Down Method</strong></p>
<p><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/383863595_76c2ab178e.jpg"><img src="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/383863595_76c2ab178e-300x224.jpg" alt="383863595_76c2ab178e" title="383863595_76c2ab178e" width="300" height="224" align="right" /></a>Young children get so engrossed in their activity, that they do not want to quit just because you say so.  It doesn&#8217;t matter if they&#8217;re playing in the sandbox, coloring quietly, or throwing toys all around the room.  If they are busy, and you tell them to stop, they are likely to pitch a fit.  Depending on their basic temperament, they may merely sulk a bit, or they could wind up on the floor, kicking and screaming.  So, how can you teach them that this is not appropriate behavior, without feeling like you&#8217;d like to join them on the floor for a tantrum of your own?</p>
<p>One method that works for many parents is the count-down method.  This is more of a tantrum-avoidance technique than teaching control, but when it comes to a two- or three-year-old, it can be a real life-saver.  Very simply put, you start counting down.  But not like you are counting from ten to one to keep your own temper.  Rather, you give your child several warnings that his activity is going to be ending soon.</p>
<p><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/2573455260_7d37d3b3961.jpg"><img src="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/2573455260_7d37d3b3961-300x246.jpg" alt="2573455260_7d37d3b396" title="2573455260_7d37d3b396" width="300" height="246" align="left" /></a>For instance, the child is playing, making a great mess, but it is nearly time for clean-up, lunch, and nap.  If you just tell him to pick up, you can be certain he&#8217;s going to balk.  Instead, you announce, when you are certain he is looking at you and hears you, that he has five more minutes before clean up time.  Then, after a bit of time, you tell him he has four more minutes, then three more minutes, etc, until it is clean-up time.  He still might try to argue, but he won&#8217;t be as out-of-control as he would be if you just announced clean-up in the middle of his fun.</p>
<p>Young children don&#8217;t understand time.  When you tell him he has five more minutes, it doesn&#8217;t really matter if you give him five minutes, two minutes, or fifteen minutes.  You don&#8217;t need to set a timer, unless you really only have five minutes to allow him.  What you are doing, is giving him clues, alerting him to the schedule, and allowing him time to prepare for the next event.</p>
<p><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/4544294695_4a4291daa0.jpg"><img src="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/4544294695_4a4291daa0-225x300.jpg" alt="4544294695_4a4291daa0" title="4544294695_4a4291daa0" width="225" height="300" align="right" /></a>I use this at the children&#8217;s library with a lot of success.  Our children&#8217;s library has a lot of toys.  Young moms love to meet there, to let their preschoolers and toddlers interact, while they visit quietly.  It has house-keeping toys, puzzles, blocks, trucks, trains, play food, a plastic house, and much more, besides shelves of books, and also a sturdy computer with a child&#8217;s sized keyboard and mouse.  My granddaughter loves to go there, and used to throw a tantrum when it was time to go.  Now, I let her know that she has five more minutes, and then we&#8217;ll be leaving.  When the count-down has ended, she picks up the toys she was playing with so the librarian will reward her with a sticker, and she races me to the elevator so she can push the buttons.  She knows we&#8217;ll be back next week.  No more tantrums in the library.</p>
<p>I use this technique at nap time, too.  I lay down with her on my big, queen-sized bed.  She has several books, and I take a romance novel.  I read two books to her, then I let her look at her books, while I read.  After a few minutes, I give her the five minute count-down, then we both put up our books.  She rarely cries at nap time now.  She usually hands me her books, rolls over and goes to sleep.  Sometimes I may have to rub her back for a bit, but naptimes are not the major battles we once had.</p>
<p>You can use this technique when it&#8217;s almost time to leave McDonald&#8217;s playland, or time to finish eating supper if your child is a food dawdler.  You can count-down when it&#8217;s nearly time to leave the sandbox, to take a bath, to go anywhere, to leave anywhere &#8211; any time your child needs to transition from one activity to the next.</p>
<p>After you have used this technique for a year, your child may actually be ready to learn to tell time.  Then you can reward him with his own watch, and let him tell you when his five minutes are up!  By then, hopefully, his tantrums will long have disappeared.</p>
<p>Other Resources:<br />
<a href="http://astore.amazon.com/raisicreatchi-20/detail/0553384422">The Happiest Toddler on the Block: How to Eliminate Tantrums</a><br />
<a href="http://astore.amazon.com/raisicreatchi-20/detail/B001TJ2YBY">Raising Your Spirited Child, revised edition</a><br />
<a href="http://astore.amazon.com/raisicreatchi-20/detail/1569243018">Ten Days to a Less Defiant Child, the Breakthrough Program</a></p>
<p>Related Articles:<br />
<a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/why-two-year-olds-have-tantrums/">Why Two Year Olds Have Tantrums</a><br />
<a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/what-not-to-do-at-bedtime/">Common Bedtime Mistakes Parents Make</a><br />
<a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/hassle-free-bedtime/">Hassle-Free Bed Time</a></p>
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		<title>Saying Good-Bye to the Pacifier</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 18 May 2010 12:00:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lorelei</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The decision to use or not use a pacifier is up to you. There is a list of pros and cons, but generally the American Academy of Pediatrics gives temporary pacifier use the green light.  Among the pros, new research indicates that pacifier use reduces the risk of SIDS.  However, prolonged pacifier use [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/2912801353_881649f85c.jpg"><img src="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/2912801353_881649f85c-300x277.jpg" alt="2912801353_881649f85c" title="2912801353_881649f85c" width="300" height="277" align="left" /></a>The decision to use or not use a pacifier is up to you. There is a list of pros and cons, but generally the <a href="http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/pacifiers/pr00067">American Academy of Pediatrics</a> gives temporary pacifier use the green light.  Among the pros, new research indicates that pacifier use reduces the risk of SIDS.  However, prolonged pacifier use may contribute to dental problems.  </p>
<p>Some parents are able to dispense with the pacifier when their baby is about six months old, but others find that their child really needs it to calm themselves, to be able to sleep, or get back to sleep after waking in the night.  Some time between the ages of two and four, most children will give it up.  The question,then, is how to help them through this painful process?</p>
<p>Here is one method that has worked for many families:</p>
<ol>
<li>First, gather all the pacifiers you can find into one location.  If your child is very dependent on them, you may find over a dozen in the car, your purse, the diaper bag, the crib, the toy box, and the silverware drawer.  Make sure they are all clean. Because they are often wet and stored in dark places, they can be breeding grounds for bacteria.  Now place the pile of pacifiers in a clear container in a prominent location.  Perhaps a big, clear plastic jar on the kitchen counter.</li>
<li>Next, talk to your child about this.  Tell him that he is growing, and soon he will not need a pacifier any more.  Maybe you only spend a day on this step, or you might need to spend a week on it.  Get some library books out on the topic of &#8220;growing up&#8221;.  Help your child see that this is normal, that every body grows up. That it is okay to feel like a big boy sometimes, and still want to be held and rocked and kissed.  Growing up does not have to be like going up a crowded escalator.  Your child can take the stairs all by himself.  Sometimes he&#8217;ll go up two steps, but then come back down one.  Maybe he&#8217;ll run up three steps, but trip on the third one and want to sit there for a spell.  </li>
<li>When your child is okay with the concept of &#8220;growing&#8221;, then you explain that every day he may have one pacifier, but it must stay in his crib.  He can climb in his crib if he feels he really needs it. He may use it at nap time, and at bed time.  But he may not take it out of his crib. And in the morning when he wakes up, HE will throw it in the trash.  You will watch him do this, and make sure he doesn&#8217;t dig it back out! (Yuck!).</li>
<li>Gradually, the pile of pacifiers will diminish.  As it gets smaller, praise your child often.  Hold him a lot.  Rock him.  Comfort him.  Sing to him.  Don&#8217;t make him feel that he is losing your love and affection.  All he is losing is something to suck.  It may help, subconsciously at least, if you serve foods that require sucking.  Don&#8217;t get him addicted to lolly pops!  The pacifier is undoubtedly the lesser of those two evils!  But you could make some frozen fruit-juice popsicles or put a straw in his glass of milk or juice.
</li>
<li>Finally, the last day will come.  He will throw away the last pacifier.  Make it a party.  Serve cake and ice cream and his favorite food for supper (assuming he has one).  Take lots of pictures.  Play a special game, and let him stay up just a little bit later than normal.  Keep him busy all day.  This would be a great day to spend at the park!  You want to make sure that he is very tired at bed time, not over-tired and cranky.
</li>
</ol>
<p>Go through your regular bedtime routine, whatever that is.  Often that means taking a bath, putting on clean pajamas and cuddling in the rocking chair to hear a story or two.  Then put him to bed.</p>
<p>He might fuss a little.  He might fuss a lot.  Do not pick him back up.  Do not bring him into your bed.  You may go in his room, lay him down again if he is standing.  Cover him and rub or pat his back.  You may put on some soothing music.  Reassure him that you love him.</p>
<p><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/2448991089_2e7ed845c6.jpg"><img src="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/2448991089_2e7ed845c6-300x238.jpg" alt="2448991089_2e7ed845c6" title="2448991089_2e7ed845c6" width="300" height="238" align="right" /></a>Some children will cry for a day or two, but rarely longer.  Then get the pacifier-be-gone photos developed and add them to your child&#8217;s scrapbook or album.  You&#8217;ve done it!  </p>
<p>If your child continues to have problems sleeping, you may want to get additional information.  Here are two books on getting children to sleep.  I haven&#8217;t yet read either of them, but I read all of the parent reviews posted, and they gave the books a five-star rating. <a href="http://astore.amazon.com/raisicreatchi-20/detail/0449004023">Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child </a> and <a href="http://astore.amazon.com/raisicreatchi-20/detail/0071381392">The No-Cry Sleep Solution</a></p>
<p>Related Articles:<br />
<a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/in-praise-of-pacifiers/">In Praise of Pacifiers</a><br />
<a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/why-two-year-olds-have-tantrums/">Why Two-Year-Olds Have Tantrums</a><br />
<a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/hassle-free-bedtime/">Hassle-Free Bedtime</a></p>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 11 Apr 2010 23:38:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lorelei</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[The first time I heard a parent use this expression, I laughed.  I&#8217;m sorry, but visions of O&#8217;Henry&#8217;s &#8220;The Ransom of Red Chief&#8221; crossed my mind, and that is a very funny story.  Unfortunately, the anger and frustration behind the words are anything but amusing.  We read about mothers who hurt their [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/2932968868_55bb7d7492.jpg"><img src="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/2932968868_55bb7d7492-300x199.jpg" alt="2932968868_55bb7d7492" title="2932968868_55bb7d7492" width="300" height="199" align="left" /></a>The first time I heard a parent use this expression, I laughed.  I&#8217;m sorry, but visions of O&#8217;Henry&#8217;s &#8220;The Ransom of Red Chief&#8221; crossed my mind, and that is a very funny story.  Unfortunately, the anger and frustration behind the words are anything but amusing.  We read about mothers who hurt their children, or murder their children, and wonder how such horrible things can happen, yet we do not respond to the subtle cries for help all around us.  So this post will attempt to alert those of us who are managing okay to those of us who may be struggling, and also to point those who are struggling to sources for help.  And even if we are managing, we can always improve the way we deal with our children.</p>
<p>What is a Demon Child?  Horror movies aside, parents who may give this demeaning moniker to their youngster probably are struggling with various behavior issues.  The child throws violent temper tantrums.  The child may hit, bite, scratch, yell, or throw things.  The child exhibits explosive behavior, going from complacency to catastrophe in sixty seconds or less.  The child may resist nap time, bed time, meal time, bath time, and time to get dressed.  In fact, the moments of inappropriate behavior far outweigh the loving moments, and the parent is thoroughly lost and frustrated.</p>
<p>This is a home on the edge of disaster.  However, it is not hopeless!</p>
<p><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/764170609_f34a2e5024.jpg"><img src="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/764170609_f34a2e5024-300x241.jpg" alt="764170609_f34a2e5024" title="764170609_f34a2e5024" width="300" height="241" align="right"/></a>First off, this parent needs a break.  If this scenario sounds like you, then you desperately need to find someway to get away from the situation for a week or more, to regain your equilibrium.  Does your child (children) have a grandparent who could step in and babysit?  Will your budget allow you to hire someone?  At the very least, can you find a drop-in day care to watch your child while you heal?  You need rest, because the way to &#8220;fix&#8221; your demon child will be exhausting.</p>
<p>Some children just are more difficult to raise.  They are more demanding, more loving, more energetic, more annoying, more physical, more emotional, more spirited than their peers.  The one word that sums them up best is &#8220;more&#8221;.  They aren&#8217;t really different from other children their age, just more so!  A generation ago, we used to call these children &#8220;brats&#8221;.  That&#8217;s not really very helpful.  I remember thinking that all they needed was a stern parent with established boundaries and perhaps a spanking to get their attention.  Then along came my grandchild, and discovered that spanking her does not work.  Time outs don&#8217;t work.  Taking away toys or privileges do not work.  She can be utterly delightful and charming one moment, and then you&#8217;re ready to pull your hair out the next, except she&#8217;s quite willing to pull your hair out for you.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m reading two books that I am finding very helpful.  The first is &#8220;Raising Your Spirited Child &#8211; a guide for parents whose child is more intense, sensitive, perceptive, persistent, and energetic&#8221; by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka.  The title pretty much says it all.  Run out to your nearest book store and buy a copy &#8211; don&#8217;t get it from the library. If this sounds like your child, you&#8217;re going to want to keep this book handy and refer to it often.</p>
<p>The second has the misleading title of &#8220;Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline &#8211; the 7 basic skills for turning conflict into cooperation&#8221; by Becky A. Bailey, Ph.D.  I did get this one from the library, but I&#8217;m going out tomorrow to buy my own copy.  It&#8217;s another one that I need to keep on my shelf.  The information inside is so simple, yet mind-blowing, because I&#8217;ve never looked at the situation quite like this before.</p>
<p>Basically, the author tells us that all the methods of disciplining children we&#8217;ve learned in the past do not work, because they do not build love and unity.  Punishment and rewards teach our children that they are somehow lacking, they are not good enough as they are and they need to change.  We use fear to motivate them.  A better method of guiding children&#8217;s behavior is to build love and unity.  To teach them the skills they need to relate to the world around them and to lead them to willingly cooperate, rather than create conflict.</p>
<p><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/3451117397_3d9119fdb2.jpg"><img src="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/3451117397_3d9119fdb2-300x267.jpg" alt="3451117397_3d9119fdb2" title="3451117397_3d9119fdb2" width="300" height="267" align="left" /></a>Finally, we need to step back and take a look at ourselves.  Children are mirrors.  They model our behavior.  They will always do what we do, regardless of what we say.  So if your child has a short fuse and exhibits explosive behaviors, where do you think he learned it from?  What do you do when someone cuts you off in traffic?  How do you treat someone who shouts at you, who hurts you?  How to you treat strangers, friends, siblings, and your in-laws?  </p>
<p>If you swear, your child will swear.  If you drink or smoke, your child will drink and smoke.  If you lie, your child will learn that telling lies is acceptable behavior.  If you lie to your child, you will also break trust with him.  If you call him names, he will call you names.  So never call you child &#8220;a demon child&#8221; again.  Stop, and think about what you are teaching him. </p>
<p>If you want your child to be more loving, then love him more.  If you want her to get along well with others, then you must be kind to others.  If you want her to share, then you must share of your time, your talent, and your treasure.  If you want her to learn self-control, then you must first learn it.  Do not waste time wallowing in guilt for past mistakes.  Do not look to lay blame, and say that you are only parenting the way your parents did.  You have a head on your shoulders, and the will to want to be better &#8211; or you wouldn&#8217;t be reading this blog!  Blame and guilt are counter-productive.  Read, think, learn, model, pray, and relax.  Love yourself!  Even one of the two most powerful commandments in the Bible &#8211; &#8220;love thy neighbor as thyself&#8221; &#8211; assumes that you do, indeed,<strong> love yourself</strong>!</p>
<p>For more specific directions on dealing with inappropriate behavior, pick up a copy of Bailey&#8217;s book and pour through it.  Your life will never be the same again.</p>
<h1>If you need immediate help:</h1>
<p><a href="http://www.postpartum.net/">Postpartum Support International</a><br />
<a href="http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org/">Parents Without Partners</a><br />
<a href="http://www.crisiscounseling.org/">Crisis Counseling</a></p>
<p>For further reading:<br />
<a href="http://astore.amazon.com/raisicreatchi-20/detail/B001TJ2YBY">Raising Your Spirited Child</a><br />
<a href="http://astore.amazon.com/raisicreatchi-20/detail/B002A09UA4">Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline</a><br />
<a href="http://astore.amazon.com/raisicreatchi-20/detail/1569243018">Ten Days to a Less Defiant Child</a></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Recently I read a post by a young mom asking for advice on what she should give her toddler for Easter.  She wrote that she didn&#8217;t want to go overboard like she had last year, but then she went on name a long list of things she had already purchased, and was obviously looking [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/3412676551_6f7f486ed5.jpg"><img src="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/3412676551_6f7f486ed5-225x300.jpg" alt="3412676551_6f7f486ed5" title="3412676551_6f7f486ed5" width="225" height="300" align="right" /></a>Recently I read a post by a young mom asking for advice on what she should give her toddler for Easter.  She wrote that she didn&#8217;t want to go overboard like she had last year, but then she went on name a long list of things she had already purchased, and was obviously looking for ideas for more.  I was rather astounded, actually.  When did Easter become a second Christmas?  What is it that we are teaching our children by showering them with toys several times a year?  Or is this just another way advertisers have brainwashed us to spend our money on their products?</p>
<p>First off, I&#8217;d like to ask, if you are not a Christian family, why are you celebrating Easter?  And secondly, if you are a religious family, what do you want your child to learn about this holy day?  Easter is God&#8217;s ultimate gift to us, the gift of His Son, who died for us.  The words are common enough.  You see them, read them, sing them, and hear them all through the year.  But what we ought to reflect upon is that actually&#8230; we were supposed to die!  That is our punishment for sin.  Eternal death!  But God loves us, so He sent His only begotten son Jesus to  suffer a horrible death in our place.  Now our bodies will age and eventually die, but we will rise from the dead, body and soul, to live forever in the presence of God.</p>
<p><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/3469427267_97dc4f25f7.jpg"><img src="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/3469427267_97dc4f25f7-300x300.jpg" alt="3469427267_97dc4f25f7" title="3469427267_97dc4f25f7" width="300" height="300" align="left" /></a> Easter is not about the Easter bunny, or jelly beans or bird eggs or new dresses, or tricycles or chocolates or stuffed toys or candy.  It is the time that we should teach our children about sin and forgiveness, about worship and celebration and joy.  Getting them wound up on a sugar high is almost guaranteed to have a cranky whiny self-centered child that you may have to discipline or send to bed early.  </p>
<p>When my children were young, we kept Easter as a holy, religious holiday.  We had our traditions, which the kids knew and looked forward to.  They did get new outfits, special &#8220;Easter&#8221; clothes to wear to church, which they wore on Palm Sunday and Easter.  I always believed in dressing children up for church.  Not to show off to others how beautiful my kids were, but as a sign of respect to God.  Remember how upset so many people got when a high school girl wore flip-flops to see the President?  She hadn&#8217;t thought she&#8217;d done anything wrong, but the office of the Presidency commands a certain respect, even if we have a president we&#8217;re not particularly fond of at the time.  If we don&#8217;t show respect to a judge in a courtroom, we can be put in jail.  We should show respect to our elders, our employer, and even our neighbors.  As far as I&#8217;m concerned, the real three &#8220;r&#8217;s&#8221; our children should learn are NOT reading, &#8216;riting, and &#8216;rithmetic, but respect, resourcefulness, and responsibility.</p>
<p>So starting the night before Palm Sunday, the kids all had baths.  They polished up their shoes, laid out their new outfits, and because we are Catholic, they also went to confession when they had reached a certain age.  Then in the morning we&#8217;d get all dressed up in our finest and attend church together.  We always attended church; it wasn&#8217;t just something we did on holidays.  But after Mass, we would return home for a big family brunch.  Our menu might have varied, but was usually something like bacon, sausage muffins, hashbrowns, hardboiled and dyed Easter eggs, chocolates and Champagne (adults only).  </p>
<p>Then in the afternoon, we would do something nice and appropriate as a family.  We might visit an animal park or zoo, or good friends.  One year it was cold and rainy, so we just played games together.  When we lived in Oklahoma, we almost certainly went to Woolaroc.</p>
<p><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/3236778658_7125e230af.jpg"><img src="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/3236778658_7125e230af-258x300.jpg" alt="3236778658_7125e230af" title="3236778658_7125e230af" width="258" height="300" align="right" /></a>Then came Holy Week.  My husband sang in the choir, so I&#8217;d sit in the pews with the children on Holy Thursday, Good Friday, Easter Vigil Mass, and then Easter morning.  It was a lot of church for youngsters, but they did learn how very important these holy days are.  We encouraged them to give up something for Lent, although children under the age of 13 are not required to fast.  Often they would chose to give up soda or chocolate, so both would be served at the Easter brunch.  The concept is to teach them about sacrifice.  How hard it is to give up something we want &#8211; like how Jesus gave up His life!  Then when they would really crave that thing they gave up &#8211; when they&#8217;d see a chocolate bar at the grocery store and they really wanted it &#8211; it would remind us to pray, and remember God.  </p>
<p>When my youngest child turned three, we decided to attend the community Easter Egg hunt.  I had never done anything with Easter eggs before, although the children always colored eggs for an art project.  But for some reason I thought this might be a fun activity. So we drove to the park exactly at the advertised time, only to find that it was all over.  They had scattered several hundred candy-filled plastic eggs, but had so many children show up that they started a minute early and it lasted exactly a minute.  My youngest was in tears.  One volunteer handed me a garbage bag full of empty plastic eggs and apologized.  I ran to the grocery store, bought a few bags of candies, and took my brood back home.  We filled the eggs together, and then I hid them in the back yard and let them all hunt for them.  Ever since, it has also become a family tradition.  The Easter Egg hunt can still be a learning activity, if we teach our children that we should always seek God in our daily lives.  </p>
<p>I never gave my children a gift at Easter, other than the small basket of candy.  And they only got enough candy that they could eat in a day or two.  They grew up knowing that I loved them, and that God loves them.  And that is the best gift a parent can ever give their child.</p>
<p>For further reading, you might try:<br />
<a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/building-family-through-tradition/">Building Family Through Tradition</a><br />
<a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/egg-laying-rabbits-and-other-nonsense/">Egg Laying Rabbits and Other Nonsense<br />
</a><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/easters-coming/">Easter is Coming!</a><br />
And be sure to check out the <a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/easter.pdf">Easter Lesson Plans.</a></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Drop in to any parenting website, chat room, or pick up a magazine aimed toward parents of young children, and I can almost guarantee that you will find at least one discussion &#8211; and probably many more than one &#8211; on the fussy eater.  It&#8217;s almost an epidemic!  Many young children between the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/3717455689_fc05de14af.jpg"><img src="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/3717455689_fc05de14af-300x229.jpg" alt="3717455689_fc05de14af" title="3717455689_fc05de14af" width="300" height="229" align="left" /></a>Drop in to any parenting website, chat room, or pick up a magazine aimed toward parents of young children, and I can almost guarantee that you will find at least one discussion &#8211; and probably many more than one &#8211; on the fussy eater.  It&#8217;s almost an epidemic!  Many young children between the ages of eighteen months and forty-eight months seem to survive on love alone.  They don&#8217;t want to drink their milk, eat their cereal, finish their sandwich, taste their vegetables, or even look at their dinner.  But when you&#8217;re in the checkout aisle at the grocery store they&#8217;re always hungry for that candy bar or sugary soda.  To exacerbate the problem, the young child is often loud and vocal about their changing food preferences.  Instead of a polite &#8220;no thank you&#8221; to the spaghetti or green beans you are about to serve, they may shout a resounding, &#8220;Yuck!&#8221;  </p>
<p>The worst meal of the day for families with young children is definitely dinner time.  Moms and dads are tired.  One or both of them just got home from work.  They&#8217;re eager to get dinner over with, so they can get their screaming tots into the bath, then into bed, before they can finally take a break.  And the worst, absolutely the worst thing either of them can do is engage in a power struggle with that child over what food passes between his lips. Once a parent demands that they clean up their plate, it is no longer an issue of health and nutrition.  This is a battle of wills, and one the parent cannot win.  If the child does eat, he&#8217;s not forming healthy, happy eating habits.  If he doesn&#8217;t eat, the parent will either cave in, or be forced to discipline the child, which can lead to life-long eating disorders.  </p>
<p>So end the meal time battle right now, and try a few of the following alternatives.</p>
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<li>Eliminate all refined sugar from your child&#8217;s diet.  Sugar is not nutritious, but when your child eats even just a little sugar, it changes his palate, and he&#8217;ll crave sugary foods even more.  He won&#8217;t want to eat anything that isn&#8217;t sweet.  It takes a few weeks to break the sugar addiction, but once you do, you&#8217;ll really appreciate how much better all your other food tastes.  Natural sugar found in fruit is fine &#8211; in moderation, of course.  </li>
<li>Establish specific meal times, and stick to the plan.  Write down what time you eat breakfast, lunch, afternoon snack, and dinner.  Serve them at the same time every day.  Keep them about three hours apart, with NO SNACKING in between.  Your child is more likely to eat if he comes to the dinner table hungry.</li>
<li>Provide plenty of activity during your child&#8217;s day. See that he has time to run and play outside, dance, jump, ride a tricycle, throw a ball, climb, hop, crawl, and turn somersaults. Don&#8217;t raise a couch potato.  If your child is burning calories, he&#8217;ll need to refuel at the dinner table.</li>
<li>Serve more raw foods, more individual foods, and fewer casseroles. It is not uncommon for a little child to like to eat carrots, corn, green beans, and peas, but refuse to eat &#8220;veg-all&#8221; with all of those vegetables mixed in together.  Remember when your young child was still an infant, you might have fed him a jar of peas and a jar of apricots for a meal, but you probably didn&#8217;t feed him a jar of lasagna.</li>
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<li>Set the table.  Eat at the table. Don&#8217;t serve dinner in the car &#8211; ever &#8211; if possible!  Use a tablecloth sometimes.  Set out special plates.  Use cloth napkins.  Light the candles.  Make dinner fun!  Play Italian music when you serve pizza, or Mexican music when you have tacos.  </li>
<li>Go on a picnic.  No matter what the season, you can take a picnic outdoors.  My dad used to love winter picnics. I can remember him bringing a broom to wipe the snow off the picnic tables in the park.  We&#8217;d have thermoses of hot soup and cocoa.  You could build a fire in the fire pit or charcoal grill and toast marshmallows.  </li>
<li>Who said picnics have to be outside?  Once in a while, take a picnic to the living room.  Spread a vinyl tablecloth over the carpet, and serve your favorite picnic fare on the floor.  Maybe the teddy bears could join you for this picnic?  </li>
<li>be realistic about what you expect your young child to eat.  His stomach is only about the size of his fist.  Make his servings MUCH smaller!  Half of one slice of bread is a serving for the 2 &#8211; 5 year old child, yet if you make him a sandwich, he&#8217;s getting four times that amount!  For many fruits, a serving size is only 2 Tablespoons &#8211; not the whole banana.  It&#8217;s better to get him to eat two grapes, then ask for more,than to overwhelm him with a whole bunch.  </li>
<li>Plan mealtime conversations.  Instead of talking about what he is or isn&#8217;t eating, or yelling at him to clean up his plate, engage him in conversation about his day.  Ask what he did, what he enjoyed, what he learned.  There are whole websites devoted to encouraging pleasant mealtime conversations for the family.  (See a few listed at the end of this article).</li>
<li>If your child still does not eat his supper, he can still sit at the table with the family until they are all finished.  He is part of the family, and mealtimes is an important time to build relationships.  After dinner, he will NOT be allowed any snacks. It won&#8217;t hurt him to go to bed hungry once in a while.  In fact, no one should be eating after dinner.  The after-dinner snack is a terrible habit to get in to, and if you or your child are not waking up hungry for breakfast it could be because too much food was consumed too close to bedtime the night before.  Breakfast is supposed to be &#8216;breaking the fast&#8221; &#8211; not just throwing another log on the hot coals of a slow-burning metabolism.  </li>
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<p>
What a big, beautiful smile!  Wouldn&#8217;t you love to see this at your dinner table every night?  Why can&#8217;t mealtimes be the highlight of the day?  With a little planning, patience, and ingenuity, it can be!</p>
<p>Check out the book, <a href="http://astore.amazon.com/raisicreatchi-20?node=13&#038;page=2">Table Talk, Creating Meaningful Conversation with Family and Friends,</a> now available in my store.</p>
<p>
Table Talk websites:<br />
<a href="http://www.emomsblog.com/2009/06/table-topics-for-kids/">Table Topics for Kids</a><br />
<a href="http://www.christianitytoday.com/tc/2005/mayjun/15.47.html">Table Talk, How Mealtime Chatter Strengthens the Family</a><br />
<a href="http://www.utahpta.org/Programs%20pdfs/family/fl_tabletalk_info.pdf">Family Table Talk Information</a></p>
<p>Related Reading:<br />
<a href="http://raisingcreativechildren.com/feeding-the-finicky-eater/">Feeding the Finicky Eater</a></p>
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